Yin, a well educated, often upbeat mathematician and Yang, a self-educated, generally sardonic philosopher combined to form a happily balanced couple. Whenever a person spent time in their presence, he or she would comment that Yin and Yang looked like they had been together forever. People would often shake their heads; that they had no idea how such opposites could have been attracted to each other. Yet, the larger picture of this couple is that they have remained in a state of perfect balance since their first date.

Opposites are generally construed to be negative. The adage “opposites attract” has truth while the fact that they often eventually repel is just as true. What then can be attributed to the success of this renowned coupling known globally, and rather informally, as Yin and Yang? What has been their secret to preserving this union for millennia in a way that has kept everything about it alive and fresh?

In the United States, most relationships can span anywhere from 3 weeks to 80 years with most marriages today lasting an average of 24 years. It was just a little over 30 years ago that average was closer to 37 years so obviously something has shifted in the US. There are innumerable sub-factors to indicators like culture, economics, education, politics and technology that have played their parts in the increasing dissolving of relationships. Both Yin and Yang have also experienced shifts in their relationship over the millennia due to the same ebb and flow of change. Similar patterns of socio-cultural issues and divisive factors that tear away at today’s love birds were present thousands of years ago but they have been magnified. The patterns reveal that the desire to pair off has always existed although conditions of civil responsibility have not been consistent.

Why then, do people decide to pair off if only to find that they are, by US statistics, alone after 24 years of companionship? More than likely, the longing to be in a loving relationship with someone special is a quality of life that far exceeds the actual quantity experienced. Samuel Butler once said that “[I]t is better to have loved and lost than never to have lost at all.” Most people who have experienced both the ecstasy of romantic love and the despair of passion departed can reflect on that quote with enough distance and then appreciate its wisdom. Romantic love has the power to render its captor intoxicated with ardor for days, weeks and perhaps years. Few who have experienced these heightened sensory emotions forget the thrill of having been elevated to such an extended period of happiness.

Once someone has decided that they have met a “person of real interest”, and the onset of infatuation has peaked, most people direct all of their attention to the wonderful aspects possessed by their object of affection. It is difficult to say how long this objective fascination lasts for each couple, but like everything else set into motion, the pendulum eventually swings the other way. During the period of pure harmony between the budding couple, there are essentially no perceptible differences that appear to be insurmountable. Attraction, that which encompasses physical, emotional, chemical, sexual and intellectual attributes are synchronous and those that are not, are overlooked. And then, there is that unforgettable moment; that one definable instant in a young couple’s maturing union when the bliss halts to a very perceptible reality. This of course is the first real disagreement where both parties uncover a palpable difference of opinion. This bubble shattering flash is the first separation in their unified front and the recognition of opposites has now permeated the relationship membrane.

Up until that instant of division, the couple enjoys a very supernatural energy field between them. Everything appears to be moving in a direction of joy and serenity with a momentum that is riding the natural flow of life. It is a pure state of harmony where subject and object alike vibrate in unison and collectivity. One’s objectivity is subverted to the other’s subjectivity and vice versa. It is blatantly beautiful; at once a symphony of ceremony between two lovers. In reality, it is riding the razors edge and the first cut occurs with that difference of opinion. It generally catches most couples off guard and with a wallop that equals a heavyweight’s right hook. Why were they so unprepared for that separation? How could they have imagined that such a minor difference of opinion could have such a shaking blow to the way that they had previously felt about the other person?

This is the Law of Opposites at work! It is always going to rear its head as it is the energy that drives the thought process itself. The Law of Opposites, governed by the perfect state of Harmony and Unconditional Love enfolds all ideas, beliefs, colors, all forms, emotions and so on. The Law of Attraction gives rise to the Law of Opposites such that the infinite possibilities within the Universe are included in the creative conscious process. The Law of Unconditional Love is the power of inclusion that exists everywhere in the Universe for the purpose of allowing creativity at every level to flourish without judgment. The Law of Unconditional Love provides the platform for every individual perspective to develop and thrive in a purely devoted environment; it is reason that the Universe will never exist where everything is the same. Although, many reason that eliminating everything that disturbs them will bring them ultimate happiness, it would be the beginning of the elimination of the experience of being alive.

What Yin and Yang both recognized when they joined forces is that the removal of what disturbs you is a mental, thought based activity which operates through the Law of Attraction. For example, if you do not want to see something in your universe, do not keep thinking about it and it will not show up. You will never have creative control in the lives of others who share the planet with you; you also do not have the right or the ability to choose for them. It is not even possible for everyone to share the same experiences as you nor will they ever possess but a fraction of insight into your mind. It is not possible for someone to absolutely agree with you even when they truly love you because the other person has not arrived at their opinion based on the same experiences that formed yours.

Everyone has his or her own interpretation of life, their own lexicon of experiences and the accompanying actions to support it and, as much as this may disturb you, each is completely right! The message is simple: everyone is right in how they choose to see the world and participate in his or own experience of life. Harmony and pure unconditional love are designed to bring you into a deeper awareness with the duality of opposites and recognize that a joyful existence requires your appreciation that they exist. Opposites exist because they are part of the whole and the whole must exist in order for the elementary principles to be complete and true. The basic principles in the Universal constructs are all inclusive and you, from your connection to the infinite stream of energy and consciousness, are naturally wired to understand this.

In a perfect union like that of Yin and Yang, two who represent the ideal inter-relationship of opposites, the expression of the natural duality of the Universal construct is what allows their union to remain perpetually stimulated to new heights of discovery. That moment of disagreement or separation has occurred for Yin and Ying as well; after all they have been together for a very, very long time. The major difference, the one that accounts for their infinite success together is that they are able to shift focus from the other’s point of attraction when it disturbs them. Rather than dwelling on the unappealing ideas or new information that the other brings to the union, both have found a way to turn their attention to something else. The conscious shifting of attention or perspective could be slight or dramatic on either part but it does not matter to what degree the shift has occurred. One degree in the direction of a thought that would make either one of them feels better has the ability to pull both in that same direction. In the case of Yin and Yang, they have equally shared roles of push and pull over the years and neither one of them has been keeping score.

The Law of Attraction inevitably brings the wonderful Law of Opposites into your imagination and gives you the fuel to create your own unique perspective. It will be the clay, paints, instruments, crayons, machines and so on to endlessly stimulate you to think and act more creatively. Along your journey, you will very likely join with another and begin a joint creative expedition into the unknown. Your success together will depend on your attraction, both physically and non-physically. This non-physical blending includes all of your joint ideas, beliefs and opinions whether you agree with them or not. The success of your union requires that you both have the capacity to embrace each other with inclusion. The true survival of the relationship hinges on flexibility, support, empathy, allowance and spiritual generosity when the Law of Opposites joins your journey.

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